The force that joins us!

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Let’s start with chemistry. Like magnets that either attract or repel, chemistry
either brings us closer or creates an invisible distance. So what is chemistry?
Ask ten different people and chances are, you’ll have 10 different answers. A person’s outward appearance? The sound of their voice? Their smell? Their ability to be confident? Their aura? Really it can be a combination of individual factors or all of the above? In any case, we don’t need to define chemistry we just need to recognise whether or not we feel it in our romantic relationships.

I remember doing experiments with magnets with my children, that had similar effects as chemistry in human relationships. If you had the magnets one way they draw together with a force, however hold one in reverse and they wouldn’t hold together at all. In fact they repelled each other.

You know that feeling you sometimes get when meeting someone new, positive or negative you don’t know how, it’s just there. That’s chemistry!

Sometimes chemistry happens with someone unexpected – not the right height, different weight, too young or too old, wrong hair, etc. Amazingly we can’t fight the urge to get close to this person, yet they don’t meet our picture of who our perfect partner is. There are times people choose their partner based on a list of personal preferences or preconceived ideas of who they think a perfect match should be, with no thought of the chemistry between them.

Chemistry knows no boundaries and it isn’t driven by logic or reasons . It isn’t going to always match you idea of a perfect mate. There is no way to fake it, it is either there or not! With the absence of chemistry, the romance will fizzle sooner or later.

Remember, chemistry starts the fire and helps keep the fire burning. This partly explains why many promising relationships falter despite both people doing their best. The chemistry we feel or don’t feel is part of being human. It’s embedded in our DNA and that’s just too much for me to explain.

What I can say is some people confuse chemistry with love. Love takes time to develop, but with chemistry you might not feel it instantly, but you should feel it early on in a relationship. No chemistry, well then you are missing a key ingredient. When
chemistry is right, it’s usually felt in a big way.

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