For years, in addition to dealing with my own impaired judgment, I have watched both my male and female friends alike struggle to relate to the opposite sex. We find ourselves constantly misinterpreting the actions of the other, justifying ill behavior but then -worst of all- we are guilty of repeating the same mistakes over and over with each new person we meet. Do we really want to get hurt!
I do not think it is possible to live a life of love that is worry free, because lets face it, there is no such thing as perfection. However, there are certain dating mistakes that are possible to avoid and worth avoiding. “I’ll call you” “I want to be with you” these words mean NOTHING until they happen. Think about it. People like to talk. We are constantly making promises that we never intend to keep and we say things because we think it is what they want to hear. Words mean nothing unless they are given life by actions!
If you are interested, tell her! This goes back to my favorite rule “actions speak louder than words.” In saying that, girls don’t just sit back and relax while the man does all the work, it is give and take. However, it is the guy’s job to get the ball rolling. Most guys seem to carry the “fear of rejection” gene, if only there were a put it on the table gene. Some situation may require you to take a leap of faith. Just remember: “It is better to have tried and failed then to have never tried at all.”
I think we all feel the pinch of being single at various times,if it’s not our desired state. Unfortunately this is true more than ever on the holiday periods. It’s natural to want to share your experiences, after all we are social creatures by design. Who doesn’t want to ‘feel the love’.
Internet dating has become a huge phenomenon in our society. After speaking to a few friends, it seems to be a very controversial subject as well. Many important questions arise when thinking about this new concept. EG: “Is this process simply a result of a changing lifestyle? There are limits to the amount of free time and social interaction that modern people have? Is it like ‘blind dating’ or does the varied ways of communicating and volume of information that comes with a prospective dater’s profile make it more personal? Is this the next natural step in a world that seemingly is without barriers due to the Internet? Is it a less human way of meeting someone than the traditional ways? Or, could this finally be a way to find, judge and rate, your true soul mate in a way that was not possible before.
The sites are pretty user friendly. You can usually go and look at a site’s galleries so you can see some of the faces and biographies of people that meet your search criteria. Many are free to join, which means that you can put your profile online for free. Contacting is mostly charged, however I have been told there are some free sites too. There are numerous ways that you can get to know each other on the Internet, you can use audio/video instant messaging, video profiles, private or anonymous email, online chatting (some with webcams), exchange of photographs, as well as message boards and the ability to see which site members are online when you are.
So back to the important questions, what do you think of this new concept for interaction? The middle path or ‘sitting on the fence’ is often the safest one to take when considering human existence. Personally, I would like to see a world where we each have time for social interaction, where the pressures of the financial life have a place in our lives along with ample relaxed, quality social time.
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